A January Marriage Reset: 31 Simple Conversations to Start the New Year Strong
January sets the tone for everything that follows.
Not because it’s perfect.
Not because motivation is high.
But because it’s a reset—a chance to slow down, reflect, and intentionally choose how you want to love each other this year.
Instead of overwhelming resolutions or vague “we should do better” goals, this January Marriage Calendar is built around small, meaningful daily conversations—the kind that build emotional safety, deepen understanding, and strengthen your connection over time.
You don’t need to do every day perfectly.
You just need to show up—together.
How to Use This January Marriage Calendar
Set aside 10–15 minutes a day (or batch a few days together)
No fixing, correcting, or defending—just listening
Let curiosity lead instead of assumptions
Pray together when prompted, even if it feels awkward at first
Use your Enneagram as a tool for understanding, not a label or excuse
This month follows four intentional weekly themes that align with the IM Podcast episodes:
Week 1: Enneagram & the New Year
Week 2: Physical & Emotional Health
Week 3: Enneagram & Health
Week 4: Developing Emotional Intimacy
Week 1: Enneagram & the New Year (Days 1–7)
Start the year with clarity, curiosity, and compassion.
Day 1 – Share one word you want to define your marriage this year
Day 2 – Ask: “How does my Enneagram type usually approach goals or challenges?”
Day 3 – Ask each other: “What motivates you most at the start of a new year?”
Day 4 – Pray together for grace where change feels hard
Day 5 – Share one goal that excites you and one that overwhelms you
Day 6 – Check in: On a scale of 1–10, how hopeful do you feel about this year?
Day 7 – Listen to this week’s podcast together and choose one idea to practice this week
Why this week matters:
You can’t move forward well if you don’t understand how each other is wired. This week builds awareness without pressure—and creates a shared starting point for the year.
Week 2: Physical & Emotional Health (Days 8–14)
Care for your marriage by caring for yourselves.
Day 8 – Ask: “What drains your energy most right now?”
Day 9 – Choose one small habit that supports physical health together
Day 10 – Ask: “What helps you feel emotionally safe when you’re stressed?”
Day 11 – Share one sign you’re nearing burnout and how your spouse can help notice it
Day 12 – Plan one reset-focused activity (walk, early night, slow-cooker meal, etc.)
Day 13 – Pray together for wisdom in caring for your bodies and emotions
Day 14 – Listen to this week’s podcast and discuss one insight that stood out
Why this week matters:
Burnout doesn’t start big—it starts quietly. This week helps you notice stress early and respond with care instead of conflict.
Week 3: Enneagram & Health (Days 15–21)
Understand how stress shows up differently in each of you.
Day 15 – Share how your Enneagram type handles stress physically
Day 16 – Ask: “What does self-care actually look like for you—not just ideally?”
Day 17 – Identify one unhealthy pattern you want to be more aware of this year
Day 18 – Send your spouse a message affirming their effort, not performance
Day 19 – Choose one boundary that protects health (sleep, work, availability, etc.)
Day 20 – Reflect: How can we support each other without trying to fix each other?
Day 21 – Listen to this week’s podcast and name one growth area for your type
Why this week matters:
Stress isn’t the enemy—unawareness is. When you know your patterns, you can interrupt them with grace instead of regret.
Week 4: Developing Emotional Intimacy (Days 22–31)
Build rhythms that carry you through the rest of the year.
Day 22 – Ask: “What rhythm helped us most last year?”
Day 23 – Identify one rhythm to start and one to stop this year
Day 24 – Share what consistency looks like for you
Day 25 – Schedule a monthly marriage touchpoint (date, walk, coffee)
Day 26 – Pray together over your calendar and commitments
Day 27 – Reflect: What does a healthy marriage look like for us this year?
Day 28 – Listen to this week’s podcast and plan a weekly marriage check-in
Day 29 – Ask: “Where have we already grown this month?”
Day 30 – Share one habit you want to protect moving forward
Day 31 – Plan one rest-focused activity for this week
Why this week matters:
Emotional intimacy isn’t built in moments—it’s built in rhythms. This week helps you design a marriage that’s sustainable, not reactive.
A Final Encouragement for the New Year
You don’t need a perfect plan.
You don’t need flawless follow-through.
You don’t need to become a “new” version of yourselves overnight.
You just need:
Honest conversations
Gentle curiosity
Willingness to try again
And a lot of grace
A healthy marriage isn’t built in January—but January can set the direction.
Start small.
Stay connected.
And keep choosing each other.