Imperfectly Married: the Podcast - Deep Connection Questions for Couples: Building Intimacy That Lasts
Let’s be real—marriage can be beautiful, messy, fun, frustrating, and everything in between… sometimes all in the same week. The truth is, real intimacy isn’t just about date nights or romantic getaways. It’s about creating intentional moments of deep connection.
If we don’t pause to ask questions that matter, we risk living like roommates instead of soulmates. That’s why we put together a list of questions designed to bring you and your spouse closer—emotionally, physically, spiritually, and for the future you’re building together.
Set aside some time this week (phones down, wine or coffee in hand, maybe even on a walk) and take turns asking each other these questions. Don’t rush. Listen with your heart, not just your ears.
Emotional Closeness
These questions help peel back the layers of your everyday routine and invite vulnerability.
When was the last time you felt really seen and understood by me?
What’s one thing I used to do when we were dating that you miss?
Is there something you’ve been holding back from sharing because you didn’t know how I’d respond?
Intimacy & Affection
A healthy marriage needs both emotional and physical connection. These questions can spark meaningful conversation about the ways you show love and desire.
What makes you feel most desired by me?
When do you feel most connected to me—emotionally or physically?
Is there a way I could be more intentional in showing affection that would mean a lot to you?
Future & Growth
Marriage isn’t static. It grows, changes, and shifts with each new season. These questions keep you dreaming and building together.
What’s one new thing you’d like us to try together—in or outside the bedroom—to spark connection?
If we could fast-forward five years, what would you want our marriage to feel like?
What’s a habit or ritual we could start this month to help us feel closer?
Faith-Based Reflection
For couples who want to invite God into their intimacy, these questions open the door for deeper spiritual connection.
When have you most felt God’s presence in our marriage?
How can I pray for you in a way that makes you feel truly supported and loved?
Final Thoughts
Intimacy doesn’t happen by accident—it’s something you cultivate, water, and fight for. These questions aren’t just conversation starters; they’re opportunities to build trust, spark desire, and strengthen the foundation of your marriage.
So grab your spouse, pick one or two questions, and dive in. You might be surprised by what you discover about each other… and how much closer you feel afterward.
✨ Want more ways to grow closer in marriage? Go listen to our latest episode of Imperfectly Married the Podcast where we share stories, laughs, and tools to help you reconnect with your spouse in real life.